I hear wedding bells

I had been struggle with something lately.

A friend of mine got married last night. Now I love weddings and normally this would be a happy occassion that I would be all too happy to participate in. But these circumstances are a little different. Without getting into a long story, or airing all of my friends dirty laundry, I will simply say this guy is not a good catch. They have been on again/off again for over a decade. They have 2 children together but he has not been a good provider. I think he is a lazy piece of shit that has completely taken advantage of her. And sadly she is at a point in her life where she feels she can't do any better. She's had a lifetime of bad relationships and perhaps she's at the end of her rope thinking this is the only guy that will have her. I happen to think she's magnificent.

When she told me she was getting married I was a little shocked. Last I had heard these two were on the rocks, yet again. But, I knew it didn't matter what I had to say. She was going to do whatever she wanted to. That's just her personality.

The wedding was on. Then off. Then on. Then off. Honestly, as of a few days ago I didn't even know if there was going to be a wedding.

My struggle was I didn't know whether or not to go. I don't support this marriage. I think it is a huge mistake. I think this guy is a slug. He's a slacker who has paid little to no child support, has no job, no prospects and has said some pretty nasty things to the mother of his children over the years. I think this wedding is one of desperation. A final resort. She's settling and I hate that.

Could I really sit there and watch her throw her life away on a man who doesn't deserve her? Could I sit quietly while they promised to love and honor eachother forever? Was it more important to show my friend I love her than it was for me to make a point about my distaste for this whole thing?

In the end friendship won. I hope it works out because I love her and want her to be happy. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. I'll be ready to wipe the tears should she need me to.

On another note I crept into the world of crafting for this wedding. She gave several people old carafes to turn into centerpieces for her tables. This is so not my thing. I wish it was. I look at pictures and think I can do it and once it comes time to carrying it out my "creations" end up looking like a bunch of crap shoved into a container.




Her colors were lavender, gold and cream and everyone was encouraged to make their own design.

This one was not my favorite...I was inspired by some simple flower centerpieces online. Filled with water it looks a lot better.








This one I liked a lot more. I wish I would have taken a pic of the finished project because I changed it a little bit. Filled the container all the way with lavender, gold and clear dragon's tears.